How to Celebrate Single Motherhood

SingleMomsRockSingle moms are the most awesome people on the planet? Why? Because we manage a gagillion hats on a daily basis and still make motherhood look easy.

Yeah there are some who crumble under the weight of it all but they are the exception not the rule.

You can’t be a single mom and not take time to pat yourself on the back every once in a while. If you are like me, an older, ahem… more mature single mother with children on the way to college you deserve a special round of applause.

*insert standing ovation*

You totally nailed it and deserve a freakin’ badge of honor.

Thank you for not giving up.

Thank you for staying the course.

Thank you for keeping your head up no matter how mean people got or how hard it seemed.

I hope you never diminish what you have done in the lives of your kids. You are strong. You are beautiful. You are all that baby!

Own your awesome and give yourself a hand :-D

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[Single Mom Hero] Single Mom Saves Neighborhood with Ice Cream

Being a single mom is tough right? But it’s not an impossible circumstance.

One Atlantic City single mom proved she could rise above the circumstances and help her neighborhood out as well.

She lived in a rough part of town so the ice cream man eventually stopped coming around. Taking it as an opportunity she began baking cookies and making ice cream with her two sons to sell.

The business was a bang up success and the neighborhood was saved.

Years later this single mom went on to school to create an even better life for herself and her sons. Now they are well-educated and productive citizens.

This single mom hero is Bonnie Davis of Atlantic City, NJ.

Read the rest of the story here: Single Mom Cookie Business

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Movie Producer Interviews Single Mom About Challenges

SamanthaBlueSqMoguldom Studios recently produced a documentary about single motherhood in black America. I had the opportunity to review the movie which I thought was very well made.

Recently I shared my own single mom story with Moguldom Studios. The challenges, the lessons, and the silver lining.

Here is that interview below. You can also check out the Twitter chat interview I did with them over at RichSingleMomma.com

What has been the hardest part about single motherhood?

Initially it was having to do it all by myself and feelings of shame. Lately it’s been about making sure my son has quality male role models.

Do you feel like being a single mother impedes success?

Absolutely not! Success is determined individually so it’s an inside job rather than an external measurement. If you reach the goals you set then you are successful. If you don’t you have the opportunity to try again. We are only unsuccessful when we fail to try.

Common misconceptions?

All single moms are on welfare. All single moms intentionally got pregnant out of wedlock. All single moms are/were unwed.

In your opinion is single motherhood a cycle that should be broken?

In some families it has become a bad habit which should be broken. However single motherhood is often inescapable because a man decides to leave, he dies, or he’s abusive. Circumstances and choices differ so single motherhood will always be around. It is not just a women’s issue, it’s a community issue.

What are some lessons you teach your children as a single mother?

I teach them that they can be, do, have anything they want. The choice is up to them. I teach them that they deserve to be in a healthy relationship. I specifically teach my son that he has a certain responsibility to finish high school, college or vocational school, get a job/start a business, buy a home, marry the woman he loves, THEN have babies. Anything outside of that is unacceptable.

Does the media/society unfairly treat black single mothers?

I’d say the portrayal of black single mothers leans toward unfairness. We are mostly categorized as crack heads, abusive, strippers, or on welfare. The reality is most black single mothers are working, providing for their kids, and are very loving. The resources and community support is overwhelmingly positive and has changed the daily lives of black single moms.

What has your single mom journey been? What challenges have you faced? Your silver linings?

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5 Foods to Help Your Mood

Foods for your mood

Did you know the food you eat can literally make you feel happy or sad? Nutrition is one of the main components of mental health, so it’s important to stock your plate with good food while cutting some of those less beneficial alternatives.

“Food can definitely alter your mood,” says Dr. Shoshana Bennett, clinical psychologist, mental health expert, and radio host. “Sometimes the effect is immediate, other times there’s a delay of an hour or so. Over time, the wrong foods can create a continuous foul mood or negative state of mind. Many people still aren’t making the connection between their emotional well-being and what they ate for dinner – or the last 200 dinners.”

Bennett explains that certain foods can negatively affect the neurotransmitters in our brains; these chemicals control sleep, appetite, mood and more. Bad foods can also cause inflammation, which may lead to other physical and mental disorders. She recommends eating these five types of food to feel happy, healthy and balanced: Continue reading

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