It is very easy for us single moms to become burned out with the day to day task of taking care of our family and we neglect taking care of ourselves. We forget about ourselves as we make the necessary sacrifices for our children. I am guilty of doing this and have to force myself to take care of me. My family and friends are constantly telling me to take time for myself. It is not easy, but I know and believe that it is necessary and it is something we have to intentionally do for ourselves. When you intentionally schedule time to pamper yourself you are saying to your family that I am important and you teach them how to treat you as such.
When you are extremely frustrated and overwhelmed, the pressure of your life has become too much and you need to put on your oxygen mask before you crash. Self-care is your oxygen mask that allows you to relax, rejuvenate, and repeat. As single moms, we deal with a lot, but, we are able I handle it, if you take care of ourselves first.
Our children deserve moms that are calm, cool and collected. Pampering yourself is essential and I will provide you with some ideas on how you can love on yourself.
- Be willing to ask for help and receive help from friends and family. – For me I am sometimes reluctant to ask for help and receive help because I did not want to burden others with my children. I never had a break…until my family called and said we will keep the children for the weekend. To be honest I was helpless the first night. The next morning I was rejuvenated….I woke up on my own without a child pulling at my eyelashes and saying momma wake up.
- Plan for one Friday night a month to put the children to bed an hour early and watch your favorite movie uninterrupted. Create a spa night and give yourself a facial, manicure and pedicure. Do not forget your favorite scented candle. Read a book or magazine. You maybe tempted to do a load of laundry or some form of housekeeping please ignore the urge and commit to self-care.
- I know that as single moms we have to be very mindful of our budgets, so allocate $10 a month for the purchase of accessories. One of my best friends recommended this to me and I really appreciate it. I go to WalMart or KMart and purchase me some really nice accessories.
Pampering yourself will allow you to teach others how to love you. I hope that you will start soon.
Please share with me how you pamper yourself,