Love and Decisions
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Guest writer Tewana Necole shares tips for being decisive in love and never losing yourself in the process.
As women, love comes easy and we usually love really hard when we are in relationships. Generally once our mind is made up about something we are satisfied with our decision. But when a man enters the equation, we some how lose who we are and we never stick to our decision. We all at one point in our lives, have decided to leave a man once we were fed up with him not treating us right, and then two weeks later we are right back in his arms. So let’s understand love & decision making.
What is Love?
God is the essence of love. Love is an unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another. Love sacrifices & lives for others. It is a decision about how we act, even when no one is watching.
Decision Defined
A decision is a determination after consideration. It is coming to a conclusion and cutting off other options. All decisions have consequences: Read More→
Man Benefits?
By · CommentsThis article first appeared on my other blog, Rich Single Momma. I think it’s worth repeating here.
This article on CNN.com kind of ties into yesterday’s post, Is Single Motherhood Too Glorified and let’s me know that there is beginning to be a shift in feminist thinking. I really don’t to get into my thoughts on the whole feminist machine, but I will say that it’s made like very difficult for so many women.
I admit that I am happier with a man in my life who loves and cherishes me. I feel complete and whole if not plumper (In know that’s not a word). But much of my depression and sad feelings come because I have been lonely. The kids are great but I am happier when I have attention and am being loved.
So I think being single is overrated and I want to be in relationship. There I said it! It’s all nice and everything to make my own money, have my own place, and have the exclusive say about what happens to my kids, but it’s just not fun…. at all! I am currently in talks with the love of my life. We are not together for various reasons but we realize that we do love each other and just do better together.
If asked which state of relationship I’d rather be in it would be marriage and committed relationship versus singleness any day. But until that time, I will find joy in this journey until my change comes.
Glorified Single Motherhood? Fact or Fiction?
By · CommentsAt my other blog I wrote an article about the glorification of single motherhood. It’s a pretty controversial topic for some but I felt the need to speak about it because of my own journey. Here’s an excerpt for you to read and decide for yourself:
Everyday I read about celebrity women deciding to become single moms for one reason or another. I find this disturbing for a number of reasons, the number one of which is the message is sends to the girls and young women who look up to them.
Another reason is, while they proudly flaunt their new status, they will likely never feel the pressure and stress of being a true single mom. They’ll have assistants and nannies to help them take care of the child. They’ll have their money to provide for the child and likely the father will be involved in some way if for no other reason than to claim some of the limelight. Their lifestyle is not threatened by the addition of a child and they will likely not feel the negative effects of their decision like “normal” people.
