Moguldom Studios recently produced a documentary about single motherhood in black America. I had the opportunity to review the movie which I thought was very well made.
Recently I shared my own single mom story with Moguldom Studios. The challenges, the lessons, and the silver lining.
Here is that interview below. You can also check out the Twitter chat interview I did with them over at RichSingleMomma.com
What has been the hardest part about single motherhood?
Initially it was having to do it all by myself and feelings of shame. Lately it’s been about making sure my son has quality male role models.
Do you feel like being a single mother impedes success?
Absolutely not! Success is determined individually so it’s an inside job rather than an external measurement. If you reach the goals you set then you are successful. If you don’t you have the opportunity to try again. We are only unsuccessful when we fail to try.
All single moms are on welfare. All single moms intentionally got pregnant out of wedlock. All single moms are/were unwed.
In your opinion is single motherhood a cycle that should be broken?
In some families it has become a bad habit which should be broken. However single motherhood is often inescapable because a man decides to leave, he dies, or he’s abusive. Circumstances and choices differ so single motherhood will always be around. It is not just a women’s issue, it’s a community issue.
What are some lessons you teach your children as a single mother?
I teach them that they can be, do, have anything they want. The choice is up to them. I teach them that they deserve to be in a healthy relationship. I specifically teach my son that he has a certain responsibility to finish high school, college or vocational school, get a job/start a business, buy a home, marry the woman he loves, THEN have babies. Anything outside of that is unacceptable.
Does the media/society unfairly treat black single mothers?
I’d say the portrayal of black single mothers leans toward unfairness. We are mostly categorized as crack heads, abusive, strippers, or on welfare. The reality is most black single mothers are working, providing for their kids, and are very loving. The resources and community support is overwhelmingly positive and has changed the daily lives of black single moms.
What has your single mom journey been? What challenges have you faced? Your silver linings?